We have been told since we were young that, inorder to love someone else, we must love ourselves first. Although we all know this to be true, practicing it is well….a practice. We must work with our negative mind, watch our self talk and take time for practices that put us in touch with our best self – on a regular basis.
For many people, work, family, and life just get in the way of self care, but perhaps what we need to do is change how we perceive time spent on ourselves.
Rick Hanson, PHD and Richard Mendius, MD discuss this concept in the book The Practical Neuroscience of Buddha’s Brain Happiness, love and wisdom:
“…it supports humility to take good care of yourself, since self networks in your brain activate when you feel threatened or unsupported. To reduce this activation, make sure your fundamental needs are well cared for.” They go on to say, ” Like many practices, being good to yourself is a kind of raft to get you across the river of suffering – to use a metaphor from the Buddha. When you get to the other side, you’ll no longer need the raft. You’ll have built up your internal resources to the point that you won’t have to consciously look for evidence of your worth anymore.”
Need more inspiration – listen to this Oprah interview with Iyanla as she relates self care to spirituality. No matter your belief system, she offers an interesting view of self care – something to think about….